The first time my husband got married, it was a Fiji wedding, a private affair for just the two of them.  Followed by the perfect Fiji honeymoon, of course.

So when we got married, I was careful to do things differently.  We got married in a totally different month than he and his first wife, for instance.  We also had a small, family-oriented wedding — his family hadn’t gotten to attend his first wedding, as it was more of an elopement.  Even our honeymoon was very different — we spent it at a family resort in the Pocono Mountains where my family and I used to spend every summer with my grandparents.  It was quite an experience, and — I trust — very different than the first time he got married.

It’s interesting to me that him being married previously caused me so much concern in the beginning.  I was really worried about things being too much like how he did them with her, and consciously strove to avoid such an abomination from occurring.  What is even more interesting is that I hardly even think about it anymore.  I guess after a couple years of marriage, I don’t feel so threatened by it now as I used to.

What about you?  Do you feel threatened by your significant others’ past relationships?  How have you dealt with it?

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